Energetically Speaking Newsletter

"Improve Your Relationships By Being Fun"

Fee...Fie...Foe...FUN. Let's get together and have some Fun! If life were only that easy to be free to play at will. With all the difficult issues to deal with in today's economy, we are not laughing as much. I heard someone grumbling "I hope my ship comes in before my dock rots." Now that struck me funny (beats lightning). I also overheard a clever teenager commenting that he was so broke he couldn't pay "attention". Those are good (not great) examples of learning how to laugh with life.

With all the texting, blogging, tweeting, emailing, and faxing, I think you will agree that we are losing our interpersonal communication skills. We are also becoming more isolated and less social. Research has proven that we are incomplete without relationships. One answer to this dilemma is to have meaningful relationships with people who are fun to be around. Try being one yourself for starters. Laugh out loud at yourself when you do something silly that looks stupid. My examples in this area are countless. :-)

For instance: I went to open my car door on my way to a speaking engagement on a very cold, slippery winter day. I was feeling quite positive about everything when suddenly as I grabbed the door handle, I slipped on a patch of ice and slid right under the car while still holding onto the door handle. I started laughing as I thought about how stupid I must have looked to someone driving by. It was a great lesson in humility as I crawled out, brushed myself off and said "this can't be that hard. I'm going to try again." My imaginary friend agreed.

Fun, meaningful relationships are priceless! Fun friends are like desserts to go. You enjoy having them along to sweeten your life. People who are fun to be around tell stories that fit into conversations. They think funny. I started a sing-a-long in an elevator just to see how people would react. The people started smiling and a couple of them even joined in! We should look for excuses to laugh because it feels so good. Michael J. Fox said "Humor is a companion to humility. You have to acknowledge that you are a speck on an elephant's butt." What a provocative way to view the world! It makes being silly not such a big deal ...being a "speck" and all.

Friends are God's way of taking care of us. The more, the better! Friends help drive your kids to mutual sporting events and dance classes. They bring meals when we are sick, call to see if we are OK, and show up when help is needed but not asked for. Real friends don't bail on you when tough times come. To have a friend you need to BE one. There is a vast difference between putting your nose in other people's business and putting your heart in other people's problems. Time spent together is the only way to build relationships that last. How we spend our time and money shows what we value. Playful people recharge our emotional engines to clean out the guck caused by stress, worry, and not enough sleep.

I was talking with my daughter's new neighbors when my son-in-law came over and said with urgency..."She's been off her medication and I have to get her back to the home right away!" The look of surprise along with the laughter that followed made an interesting first impression. He also bought me a t-shirt that reads "I'm Talking and I Can't Shut Up." What's not to love?

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