Energetically Speaking Newsletter
"Life is short. Make Fun Of It!"
What's fun gets done because the work seems easier. We are attracted to positive people who make us feel good and to the businesses that hire them. We want to join in with them because the day seems to go faster when you are busy and having fun at the same time. Research has shown that happy people are more productive, live longer, and have a stronger immune system resulting in fewer sick days. I have always said "Hire the happy. They are more fun to work with!" Creating a positive emotional environment takes positive people who are enthusiastic about life along with a sincere desire to help others get what they need.
We should not take our life or our time each day for granted. Today my husband and I were turning our car onto the main street when a large SUV in a big hurry was in the same lane coming toward us. My husband slammed on the brakes and the young man driving the SUV swerved back into his lane just as we passed missing us by a couple of feet!!!! There are NO guarantees even if you are obeying the law and are right…you are just as dead. Later that afternoon I looked in my rearview mirror while I was driving to see a young woman smoking a cigarette and talking on her cell phone who almost side swiped me. She glanced the other way when she came along side of me, hopefully filled with shame and guilt. People know when they are wrong but, more times then not, they decide not to do anything about it. We are not talking a card or gift here…just an "I'm sorry" look or gesture. They just apathetically look away like nothing ever happened. Our job is not to get angry or get even. We need to take the higher road of forgiveness and delight in still being alive. There is no time like the "present" which really is a "gift." Giving our time is giving our life to that moment where we need to be fully present. That shows people that we truly care.
Time waits for no man. (A woman…maybe? ) We know that our time is very valuable but how do we treat it? We waste it, kill it, and spend it but do we invest it and then manage it so that we get the best "return on our investment?" Ah, not so much from what I hear from my clients, friends, and relatives. You can learn how to do that even better at one of my presentations.
You cannot microwave relationships! The quality of our relationships is in direct proportion to the time spent with the person. Communicate so that you enter into the other's experience. Most communication takes place nonverbally through facial expressions, body language, and tone of voice. Technology can be a great side dish, but the real main dish of a relationship requires being physically present. The effort you make to do that says a lot!
Don't waste your life by being too busy for what really matters! I have never heard a resume read at a funeral but I have heard families and friends talk about the wonderful memories they shared along with many unselfish ways that the person contributed to others lives. A wake we attended opened my eyes to yet another way to celebrate the life of a loved one. In the entryway of the room where our friend's wake was being held the family had brought the porch swing from their lake home decorated with pictures of grandma with her children and grandchildren on the swing with her. They also had a birthday cake by the guest registration because the day of her wake was also her actual birthday. The family said that she would have wanted to share her birthday cake with her friends on her "special" day.
Another family had their mom's sense of humor to help them grieve her passing. She insisted on a grave marker that was an expired meter. (see insert) It read "Our Mom, Her Humor Lives On.." I told my family that I wanted a red sponge nose on my nose at my wake because I wanted to "leave them laughing." They just rolled their eyes and said, "Ew."
